I am in an odd place in my life
right now. I have a daughter that is old
enough to date and I am a single mom. . As I
have been on a few dates, I thought I would write the rules of dating not only
my daughter but also myself. The rules
however, are not much different from when I was a teenager. Growing up my dad had a few rules and I have
added on to some of them. I have noticed more since I have been single
that some boys are only interested when it is convenient for them; this is normal but, my daughter and I are both
smart, funny, good-looking girls that need to be treated for the
princesses/queens, we are.
Rules for dating either of us.
1.
You must
make a phone call. I know in the age of
texting it seems okay to do that, however a phone call is the way to go. If you cannot spend the few minutes to ask my
daughter or myself out why should we go?
2.
You must come to the front door. I know that cars have horns, but I will not
let my daughter go out to someone that is not kind enough to walk to her
door. In addition, I am worth a few
steps to come up to the front door. I
need to show my daughter that I am worth those steps just as she is.
3.
You need to be on time. If you have arranged to pick either of us up
at seven o’clock, you need to be here by seven o’clock not half past
seven. If you are going to be late,
please call and let us know. I like my
daughter promise to be ready at the arranged time.
4.
You must treat us how you want your sister,
aunt, grandmother, or mother to be treated. This in old people talk means that you must
buy the cow before you get the milk. You
may not check out what is underneath the hood until the car is purchased, no
test drives allowed.
Now the following
rules are just for dating my daughter.
1.
You
must meet the parent. When you come up
to do the door, you must meet her grandparents or myself. This is not optional it is a rule.
2.
If you
ask her out, she needs to be the most important person that night. If anyone text you do not answer it, unless
of course it is your mother.
Now rules for
dating me.
1.
You must have a job or steady income. I work two jobs equaling out 55 hours a week
outside the home. This is not counting
the hours of grading papers and lesson plans that need to be done. I am not looking for another mouth to
feed. I have three of those plus myself already;
I need someone that will lighten my burdens.
I am not looking for anyone to take care of my kids or me; I have been
able to do that for almost 3 years now.
2.
You must take a shower! This does not mean you took one a week ago,
it means before you picked me up that you could at least spend a few minutes in
the bathroom to make sure you smell clean.
It is gross if you smell so bad that someone tears up. Now, some of you are laughing but I have been
on a date that included crying during Captain
America, not because the movie was sad, it was because of the smell of the
person next to me.
3.
Please do not laugh, but this important and I am
a little embarrassed this has to be on my list.
You must keep your teeth in during the date. I hope that I am not the only woman alive
that thinks taking your teeth out is a turn off. If you have to take them out, please find
someone a little older to take out. I am
not your girl.
These rules are
simple and should not be hard to follow.
However, if you break them then dating two incredibly wonderful women is
not going to work for you. I hope if
anything I have taught my daughters that you get to be number one in someone’s
eyes. If not, they are not worth your
time. Dating is a time to decide rather
two people will work out and I understand that, but I want my girls to find
someone that will treat them the princesses they are. This goes for me also; I do not have to play
a secondary role to others. I am worth a
whole lot more that some people think, I am that diamond in the rough.
