Living in Peace

Last night my dad called me, he wanted to talk about a book that both of us had read. I explained that I was busy and I would call him today. My dad was not a big reader growing up, well he might have been but I didn’t see him read. He found a book series called, “Children of the Promise” there were five books set in WWII time. It was a very good series, he liked it because it was about his parents’ generation, I liked it because it had to do with WWII. The author Dean Hughes wrote a second series called “Hearts of the Children” and then one book about a granddaughter of the main character in the Children of the Promise series. We were discussing that book called, Promises to Keep. In this book the granddaughter has recently divorced from a bad marriage. She has a hard time being about to cope with the day to day life that happens when you are single. I had read this book about 3 or 4 years ago, while before I was single.

I was talking to my dad about unintended consequences of decisions made rather they are decisions that you make or others make for you. This is a hard issue for me to write about. But, I feel that it has to be written about. My dad wanted to know about how Diane’s story applied to me. I told him like Diane I just wanted to make out with a little bit of class and dignity. I do not know if that is true but I have tried. My dad also asked me who I go to when I need to talk. I talked to my sisters, I talked to Grandma and Grandpa Fronek, I have a great circle of friends, and most importantly I have a Heavenly Father who loves me.

My dad wondered how my Father in Heaven helped me. I know that sometimes prayers are answered by Heavenly Father, but they are not always answered in ways we think they are going to be. My prayers have been answered by the small things, answers found in the scriptures, lessons in church, and just talking to my friends. My dad then talked to be about the grandma in the story and the advice she gave Diane. She wanted to make sure that Diane was taking care of herself and being able to look herself in the mirror when it was done.

As moms we are good at taking care of ourselves. We specialize in making sure that our children are getting taken care of. I truly believe as moms that is what we are suppose to do. I love taking care of my children. I love making sure children are happy and doing what they enjoy doing. This does not mean that if they are not following rules it means that they are happy and healthy. One of the situations that has been very tough this year is not having someone else to help me with the day to day with the kids. I am blessed to have great kids. I know all moms feel this way, but I have been truly blessed with wonderful children. This again is an answer to prayers.

This time of year I think of Mary holding her new born baby. I remember what it was like to hold my own three children. Mary must have been a wonderful mother, we know this because He is the Only Begotten Son of our Father in Heaven. You know that Jesus loved his mother because he made sure she would be taken care of while he was hanging on the cross. I hope that my children share Christ’s love for his mother. As I spend this Christmas reflecting on decisions made I am glad that I will be able to look myself in the eye.